by Enrique Cruz

‘talking today to a friend, who complained to me: “All guys suck…why do all men have to cheat?” 

The issue of monogamy in the gay world has always been an issue…like that comedian suggest: “You’re only as loyal as your options.”  — so, if you have the option to get all the dick and ass…the question is “why not?”

Most people I know say things like, why can’t  I love someone and still date — or at least sleep with — other dudes?!

 The question of cheating…comes to down to communication and understanding; Scientists have long suggested that lifelong monogamy may be unnatural for humans (especially for those with a hunger for fresh meat) — but, there are compromises….going back to that communication, turn it around…

….”unfaithful”

just means

“dishonest”….how about laying all the cards on the table and finding a happy medium.

what works for you and Joe…may not work for Steve and Roger….but, when two people align…and like each other enough they should be able to communicate clearly….

So, be up front, see what both of you will allow or not allow….

by Enrique Cruz

‘was chatting today to a friend who started dating someone new…’we came up with today’s question on the topic “smell” –

 QUESTION:  When my new Boyfriend and I get nasty (and sweaty), the smell of his body gets really strong…and I get a little dizzy.  Do people’s smells change when they are sweaty? or when they are turned on…or am I the crazy one?

ANSWER:  Sexual arousal — on both sides of the fence — does amplify the human sense of smell…consider your brain is working on many levels (processing and reacting) — all at once…so, you will smell all that (and then some).

Now, from his end, with sweating (and arousal) — humans all secrete / discharge something when we are aroused — the scent gland called apocrine glands, which produce fatty, odorous sweat — usually, where ever there is hair on the body — (um, maybe another reason to pick up that bodygrooming kit)…usually, the smoother the man, it means less of that sweaty smell…however, there are some guys that are into that raunchy smell  – (but, that’s another blog entry – called animal attraction). 

…scientists say ”smells” might get worse if the male is both aroused and frightened by the situation.

(fear does give of some slight body odor as well)   – let’s call it fear juice!!  

It could be the poor guy is terrified of the other person  – or, maybe the situation…newbies, are often fearfull to new situations…..spend some time making each other comfortable…or fuck in the shower (near lots of soap).

Drop me your own questions…………….ec 

by Enrique Cruz

You heard that song “You make me better” — the chorus goes something like: “together we burn it up…” well, that ties right into this question from the e-mail bag  –

QUESTION: “I was trying to avoid using drugs while having sex, so, I read about doing a certain type of Yoga for better sex that ties into how you breath.  Does controlled breathing heighten orgasms for men?”

ANSWER:  Depends on your view of  a “heighten orgasm” — if you are looking for a “change” of pace, when busting that nut — you’d be in line for a “variation” on the experience

scientifically speaking, varying — (or controlling) — your breaths should – (in most people) — extend the lenght of an orgasm…adding a few seconds to that spasms of liquid joy … you can safely experiment with this using some simple Yoga  breathing techniques (called breathe of fire, etc).

…but, if you looking to soar the heights — (like leaping up to a tall building) — along the lines of rocking my world….I would wrap the “brain” into the mix.

For my money, Mental Stimulation offers the ultimate orgasmic experience…’when you are getting into the other person — and you connect into his speed… along the lines of a Vulcan Mind Meld…Together on the same page….you know what he’s thinking….’that will definately make you “cum” better (but, you are welcome to add the breathing to change it up).

As alway, your Gay Sex-y—questions are welcome  here!!

by Enrique Cruz

let’s get to the e-mail bag:

QUESTION: Why is it everybody I meet with a “big penis” also has such a bad personality, or worse, no personality?

ANSWER:  Personality is a subjective thing; you’ll see some people get along, while others can’t stand each other the second they meet. 

I have heard about the small penis syndrome — where guys feel they have to over compensate when they are not packing…similar to the shrort man sydrome they find ways to express their…um, bigness.  So, Penis size does play a role on the way someone interacts with other folks…it’s human nature.

It’s possible that swagger you can only get when you’re “packing” means that you don’t feel like you have to use your other muscles…like something as simple as expressing personality….or maybe, the folks you meet are introverts….and you need to look into yourself… since you are chasing big cocks you are also bringing along some extra mental baggage of your own to the table….we could call it a “size queen” mentality…but;  It’s really hard to say without more details.

e-mail us your own questions, comments..and we’ll post them up.

DEAR ABBY: I am 18, a freshman in college, and I’m having the hardest time making friends. I have always been a quiet person, but meeting people around here has been like pulling teeth. I have received advice from many people telling me I should be more open to people, and I should talk more and be active in groups and organizations. Although I have followed this advice, no one seems to take an interest in me. What should I do? I have been beating myself up about this. Now I’m starting to get depressed. — LONELY IN NEW ORLEANS

DEAR LONELY: Cheer up. If misery loves company, you have plenty of it. Loneliness is probably the No. 1 problem in my mail. Everybody wants to be well-liked. It’s essential to a person’s self-esteem to know that others think he or she is worth having as a friend. But making friends doesn’t always come naturally. For many, it’s a learned skill.

While joining groups and organizations is an excellent way to meet others, before you do, it’s important to take a good look at yourself. Ask yourself why you find some other people immediately attractive. Obviously, because they appeal to you. Well, how do you appeal to them? The expression on your face can be your greatest asset — or liability. Would you strike up a conversation with someone who is wearing a permanent-press frown? If that could be you, get rid of it.

If you walk down the street in any foreign country in the world, even though you may not